I noticed when people utter this phrase, “I’m just joking” it usually has a double meaning.
The thought occurred to me, while meeting a group of friends for dinner. Reservations were set and we all gathered together, with the exception of one tardy friend. We could not be seated until our entire party arrived. Thus, started the bitching and moaning of one particular person for thirty minutes. I wanted to scream the words, “Please shut up, for the love of God!” (I let that thought remain, exactly what it was). Finally, our “late” friend arrived with sincere apologies and then a peculiar occurrence happened. The bitch and moaner of the group said, “It’s about damn time!” then she quickly added, “I’m just joking”. This phrase seemed to have abated the anger and simultaneously cleansed the person of their accusation. The night continued in harmony and nothing was ever mentioned again.
The next episode was at a friends house. After hours of listening to my girlfriend bitch and moan about her boyfriend not being home, the man of the house finally arrives. My friend was clearly upset as her boyfriend walked through the door (I was thinking she is going to let him have it) she immediately yells, “I’m so pissed off, where were you!” He gives some lame story. Then she says, “I’m just joking” and everything was back to normal. Yet, I could not help but wonder…what the heck?!??
The “I’m just joking” phenomenon is becoming a more excessively used excuse to be a passive aggressive Coward.
If you are boisterous enough to complain about a particular target (person), then why not be tough enough to back up your true meaning or feelings. If you can’t do this, why waste your breath? Keep it a mere thought in your mind or better yet, let go of your hostility.
Why is there a need to always belie?
I remember a nurse once told me, “Holding hostility inside or displaying passive aggressive behavior is like swallowing poison and expecting the other person to die”
Why can’t we …